Letting the past invade your present

Pain (Photo credit: Michelle Brea)You know, I can't think of anything more damaging than when we let past pain, past bad memories, and past relationships invade our present. What does this truly mean in the deepest sense? You're making a choice to let something bad and negative have a place in your life long after the fact.
Whats the benefit to this? Well, maybe you're gaining something from keeping these painful life events in your present. Maybe you're securing long term sympathy, or using your past as a way to manipulate others that care for you to make your life now better?
There's many reasons behind it, the real challenge is when you take an honest look at why you're continuing to let past pain invade your life. You wouldn't let past diseases come back if you could stop them would you?
Letting go
What is the fear in letting go of bad things?
What's to be gained from holding on?
Consider this...
Most people have painful pasts. Most people have been wronged horribly by some or many. Many have been through far worse than you have. Some kill themselves, some become addicts, some withdraw and some move on and live life well in spite of it. Which person are you going to be?

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