Helping Elderly Family Members and Friends

A gray-haired old woman from the United Kingdom.

There are a lot of elderly citizens living a lonely life in the US today. Many don't come into contact with other people for days and weeks at a time. We need to honor our elderly and help whenever we can.

Offer transportation- Elderly people live on fixed incomes, getting a ride to the grocery store or doctors office is a huge help to them.

Stop by and visit every so often and ask them if they need anything. Elderly people get sick and lonely often. Just knowing that someone cares will brighten their day.

Pets are good for the health. Many elderly love and miss their own animals and love to give affection to cats, kittens, puppies and gentle animals. Look into starting a program if possible by working with local elderly housing to have a pet visiting day in your area.

Cook them a meal on occasion, most older folks don't eat a balanced diet. They have limited funds and can't always buy all that is needed for a well rounded meal and often just have the most convenient thing they can make. Bring a covered dish over, they will appreciate the thought and look forward to your visits.
Take them to get their hair done, or to the barbershop. Most elderly people like to look spiffy and well groomed just like the rest of us. This will lift their spirits and they will love you for it.
If they are struggling physically or just had surgery, offer to clean their home and do some yard work. Most elderly are physically not able to do most of the chores needed to keep their home as they'd like it. This can make them feel loved and cared for.
Give lots of hugs. You never know how much they may miss human contact. Affection is craved at any age.

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